AITA my maid of honor is my sisters former bully

its been 17 years since she was bullied by this person. Sara sent another apology in college but mai didn’t want to met with her, which is her right

for everyone assuming, I was bullied also growing up also but I went to therapy and moved on. That person is in my sister friendgroup

i don’t care she is friends with him, because it happened years ago

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This is a throwaway account. This is kinda confusing.

When my sister ( Mai) was in middle school she was bullied by this girl, I will call Sara. Sara was a huge dick, it was spreading rumors and making fun of her.

She left the school when she was in 7th grade. So when she was 12 years old. Unfortunately Mai continued to get bullied all throughout highschool.

In high school, Mai got an apology text from Sara. My sister blocked her and moved on.  ( I remember this)

My relationship with Mai isn’t the best, I was blamed a lot for her being bullied since I am the older sibling and I should be protecting her. I tried a lot growing up to help her but it resulted in me getting yelled at by Mai or my parents if something happened and I wasn’t there.  It was bad enough that my parents wanted her to go to my college so I could watch after her.

bascially I was a scapegoat for anything bad that happened to her

Luckily she didn’t get in.

In college, this is when I met Sara. She was in the same dorm building as me and we hit it off. I didn’t know who she was at the beginning but we connected the dots like 2 years into knowing each other.  I have a common last name. I told my sister about her and she told me she doenst want to be around her. Fair

Sara has been my support for years. She has helped me when I have been at my worst and overall I see her as family. My relationship with my own family is strained because it seems like they never have time for my issue. it always goes to Mai issues

Sara is my maid of honor and I am planning my wedding. This is a problem. Mai learned form a post about Sara being my maid of honor and was pissed. She called it a betrayal that her 6th grade bully is being in my wedding and that she isn’t a bridesmaid

We got into an argument. I told her I am not kicking her out of my wedding and she can either come or not. My parents are on my ass about it also  the bullying happened 17 years ago