AITA for telling my sister it’s hurtful that she doesn’t want to visit?

My sister and I live on opposite ends of the states. We were recently talking about how I wish she could come up and visit. I think she got defensive and said I never invite her, but I pulled up recents asking “can you come visit this summer” or “can you come up to (instead town) soon” but I guess that’s not an actual invite.

The convo escalated to her saying that we’re both always busy and that she doesn’t want to come visit me and my boyfriend. It made me sad to hear that, especially because I don’t live with my boyfriend and he wouldn’t have to be there. I told her this and asked if there was something specific that we could try to fix. She said she’s sorry if she hurt my feelings.

We both have dogs that make it difficult and she has recently moved in with her boyfriend where she manages the household (takes care of meals, cleaning, dogs..etc. which makes it harder to leave. If they had to get a dog sitter or stay in an air bnb to visit me with her bf she said she would have to pay for it. I guess the option to visit me without him is not in the cards.

I totally get that and I understand it’s different when you live with someone and said I’m not mad or anything but just sad that the reality that we both have our own lives and responsibilities so seeing each other takes a lot more planning and isn’t as easy as it used to be.

I’m feeling like the asshole for escalating this argument and feeling little sympathy to her situation with her boyfriend that makes it hard for her to do anything without him.